
It was in March, four months ago, that I signed up for a week long, travel photography workshop. The instructor, Bob Krist, is one of my favorite photographers. He's traveled and photographed spectacular locations around the globe, for both National Geographic and travel magazines, and I have admired his work for years. I had been keeping an eye on his teaching schedule for 2008, and I was thoroughly elated when this travel photography workshop popped up. But over time, say a week or two, my elation turned into fear. A requirement for submission into the class (aside from shelling out the tuition) was the submission of a photography portfolio. I procrastinated. And procrastinated. Weeks went by, then it was months and then it was a month before the workshop was to begin when Bill asked me if I had submitted my portfolio and paid the balance of the class. The conversation went something like this:
Bill: Did you submit your portfolio yet?
Me: No.
Bill: Why not?
Me: Because.
Bill: Why because? Are you 3 years old?
Me: No. Well, sometimes. SIGH.
Back and forth we went until I ran out of smart-assed answers and I had to be honest about the root cause of my procrastination.
One of the gifts my husband has is his ability to drill down to the heart of the matter in the midst of chaos.
Most of my friends thought my fear was that of submitting a portfolio and dear as they are, assured me, "of course you'll get in to the class." But my fear wasn't the portfolio and I was certain that I would be accepted. My real fear was what happens after the acceptance. What then? For me, the "what then" was about measuring up once I got to class. Where would I fit in with the 15 other students? Would I be on par, would I be able to pick things up, would Bob think my photography skills and my photos sucked? I'm sure you get the gist of the internal dialog I had going.
My friend Courtney said some things that really stuck. "Hey," she said, "You're there to learn. If you already knew all this stuff you wouldn't have singed up to take the class. You'd be teaching the class!" She continued to remind me that this is supposed to be fun and that learning is fun and it's OK to mess up along the way, because HEY, I'M LEARNING DAMNIT! Courtney's humor and patient approach sunk in (she used to be a school teacher). I just had to keep telling myself, "I'm learning." I took her comments to heart, and I recalled over the years, how I've never given myself margin for error; margin to learn and fumble my way down the learning trail. I've always expected myself to get things right and perfect the first time -- as if I had already learned them. But learning doesn't work that way and neither can I. If I were training someone, I would never expect them to learn without the trial and error that goes with learning. Then why, I had to wonder, didn't I extend myself the same patience? Acknowledgement was my first step. That night, promptly, I went home and submitted my portfolio. I phoned the school to explain the ... uh ... oversight in having submitted my portfolio. The next day I received an acceptance email that said "good work" and that they'd see me soon. Soon. Yes, very soon.
I'm sitting in SFO. It is 11:00 pm and I have another hour before we board the red-eye flight to Boston. I'll arrive there in the morning, pick up my rental car and drive to Rockport Maine. Maine! A place I've ALWAYS wanted to visit. Does it get any better than this?
Once I got over my initial fear of flying (so to speak ... cuz I really don't have a problem flying and in fact, I quite love it), I could then move beyond my temporary paralysis and look forward to the journey and experiences that await me. I'm excited. I can do this! And whatever my photo skill level is today, a week from now my skills will be even better (the entire point and well worth any anxiety). Just to make certain that my new found enthusiasm wasn't a temporary blip, I signed myself up for 2 more classes, one in September and an intensive three-day workshop on the Oregon coast in October.
Yep, no guts no glory!